Where HAVE all the cowboys gone?

Ugh! I'm seriously ready to give up. And it's weird cuz some people tell you not to look for love, it will find you...but then others say never give up looking. So which is it supposed to be? I just don't know anymore. And I've also heard the one "you won't find love in a bar" Well where are you supposed to find it? Not saying the bar is the best place, but just cuz you meet someone in a bar doesn't mean it's not gonna work out, right? And just cuz you meet someone at church doesn't mean it will work out. I'm just so frustrated and maybe it's my own fault. I've allowed myself to be with guys that don't want anything more than friends with benefits and yes that's MY bad. But at the same time, I really haven't met anyone who doesn't want just that and it's making me feel like maybe that's all I'm good for. A year ago, I met a really nice guy. We went on a date, but I sabotaged it. He was really sweet, but everything in me rejected him. I really don't know why. I've thought so many times that maybe I should have given him a chance. We've stayed friends and we talk now and then. He's been there for me like a good friend should whenever I've needed someone to talk to. Then one night he brought up sharing a bed or something...anyway you know what he wanted. I was so shocked cuz when we talked before our date, he said sex wasn't a big deal...that a relationship should be built first...so was that just a line? Who knows? He now has a girlfriend...said he doesn't know where it's going and that we can still have fun. WTF? However, when I told him I made myself a promise, he was cool with it. Ok, so let's fast forward to last week. I went out with my sisters-in-law and there was a group of cowboys (yes! I've been dying to find me a cowboy LOL!) and one of them went over to talk to me. He chatted me up for a bit and then told me that his cousin wanted to meet me. So I told him to tell him to come talk to me then. So he did...seemed like a really nice guy. He bought me a drink and asked me to go sit with him and his cousins. So I did...which BTW...made the guy from my last post extremely jealous (#score!) Anyway...we talked but he wanted me to go with him to his cousin's house and I just wasn't having it. I'd just met him and I told him straight up I wasn't looking for a hookup. So to my surprise, he still texted me a couple days later. So here I'm thinking maybe he's a good guy. THEN he texts me telling me he's got a girlfriend but we can play around if I don't mind, to let him know. Seriously?! The worst part, though, is that I considered it...just for a second and then I was like what are you thinking! So I texted him back and said, "no that's cool, but thanks for telling me." That's the only thing I give him a tiny bit of credit for...for actually telling me and giving me the option instead of pursuing me and then me finding out later. Makes me wonder if there are faithful guys out there...I felt bad for his girlfriend when he told me. Cuz even tho I said no...there's some girl out there that will say ok. SIGH!